Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Self Control Aggression

Out of many essentials on "living life" that my friend has shared with me, I share one of those here .

The one who learn to control himself, certainly would win success
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Human is one of a living beings, but he is different from all living beings in this world,
he has raised from all other living beings, the reason is very simple due to his mental abilities, he could raise his bar from rest of the organisms. Other living beings apart from the humans, cannot think and do work properly, they cannot laugh? at their own will, neither they can think future nor self control their mind by themselves.
It is this special ability of self control by humans, he has evolved much better and made him far better to other living creations on the earth. Due to this self controlled aggression , it has become possible to control this entire world under him and continously he is becoming more powerful.
Humans can do lot of things. In every human being there is lot of potential to do work and thats the reason human is strengthening. And success behind is the self control power of human. On the basis of this power he is doing miraculous works everyday. Lot of people do wonderful works in their lives.
what could be the reason behind it?
Is this called LUCK?
If you are someone who is been successful would you give credit to luck or the hard work behind their success, only they know by themselves how hard they have worked to reach there, others donot even know how difficult it was to reach there.
There is certain secret on every man's success. It cannot be possible without a solid foundation to have a success. It is a certain principle one cannot deny. so what is the real cause of success?
Human psychologists researched and could find out the big secret behind the success of a person--IS THE QUALITY OF SELF CONTROL ON HIMSELF.

Self control aggression is the first step towards the success. Everyone accepts this unanimously in one voice. In reality this is the greatest mantra to success.The person who could win himself can win the world also. In the whole universe its only the human who can have self control and have disciplined thinking.
For an example the tiger couldnot think beyond eating the goat tied to the tree, he cannot think that hunter is waiting to shoot and as a result it gets killed, lots of birds also killed  in the same way, as they cannot control themselves or teach themselves to stop sitting on net even if they can know why the net has been spread for. Reason behind is the lack of self control on themselves.
Sticking to your thoughts, controlling it, disciplining your mind are called as self control ( ATMA NIYANTRANA).
Psychologist say it and even proved that the thought of mind is more influenced to diseases or by the attack of other. Thoughts mean series of wave thoughts flow in your mind. Mind is the prime culprit for the unethical reasons.
1) Is Controlling mind the most difficult task?
2) How many people do control their mind?
3) Think yourself, is your mind in your control?
4) Do you instruct your mind to drive according to you wish?
Or you just surrender to the mind? And run according to the wish of the mind. Try to find the " TRUE ANSWER" that  you  can do this actually by yourself?
These are something which are related to your success.
There is a small story here from The incident in life of GAUTAMA BUDDHA.

Once he was sitting to preach his disciples, suddenly a famous Dacoit  named  angulimal came there, fear stricken people ran panic here and there, he was a big terror to people. He used to loot people and kill them and wear a cut finger  as a remembarance of each one killed to display that how people he has killed,which can be called in hindi anguli(finger) Mala(Garland). Buddha has self controlled himself, not a bit frightened but stayed there, seeing this angulimal said  to Budhaa that he came to kill him. Buddha asked piolitely,Wheather  if he wished to kill  that day only or next. As angulimal answered yes today now, Buddha looking in to his eyes said he could do it but he has no time now as he  can see Budhha teaching his disciples  and asked to come to some other time and he started to preach again.Angulimal never saw such a person who not feared a bit , but infact he started to order him, there was no fear at all. Something has already touched in the heart of angulimal, he realised the power of concentration of self, fell at once to his feet and asked for refugee. He was a changed man than onwards.
See the wonder of controlled aggression. In whatever situation not frittering being non reactive is first step to success and the people who follow this principle got success, without this principle getting success is not possible.
Everyone knows the life of Socrates. His wife always fought with him. But Socrates always diminished anger and he used to bite his lips to control his anger. Anger is the first enemy of the man. The person who cannot control his anger cannot achieve self control even. The person who gets frequently angered not only becomes weak by body but even with his mind. There is no benefit at all with anger what so ever.
lets find out why we get angry?
We get angry when someone do mistakes or if someone hurts u, fights with u abuses u. then you get irritated, so much that you get ready to do anything what soever losing balance of your mind -that moment - one gets out of control fully. Some people gets so angry that even they kill others or they get killed themselves.
The question is that is there  any benefit out of this anger at all?  if something wrong has happened, or some mistake happened, or you lost your valuable thing, will that problem  get all right if you shout at or if you get out of control? Anger cannot bring back your things or set it right, its impossible.

Instead by getting out of control you get in to further trouble and open doors to more filth and losses.
By getting angry you not only lose your health , your mind, your body but money also.
George Hobart says in arguments and fights one needs to be always maintaining patience and peace even when there is a small aggression can actually spoil the entire thing, and turn ugly later. even truth gets side lined at that time.
Think yourself how true is Hobart's saying?
My friend shared a story of saint kabir's family how they were in perfect relation in each other , which his mentor always mentions about in discourses.
Whenever kabir got angry with his wife, his wife not saying a single word, never argued at that moment, after sometime kabir gets cooled down, similarly whenever his wife used to scold kabir, he gets tight lipped himself, not uttering a single word. Same way when his son kamaal used to get angry, both were tight lipped. In this fashion they used to give away to outburst emotion of anger a vent but never was into arguments or heated exchanges between them and always lived happily in their relationships.
What a great way to counter, the saints invented to prevent break relationships. Hatred is a vapour of venom which kills one's body mind and soul completely.
Self control aggression keeps mind in control.  It is the best quality habit one should possess and its believed by all the religions and saints of the world. Complete controlled person is a great quality and its holding power.
Narberth Robert was a famous writer of his period. His wife has got rude behaviour and fought with him . One day she tore a manuscript out of anger which he recently finished. If someone instead of Robert would have countered with something similar. But Robert was self controlled person he didn't say a single word and instead started writing it again and that was his secret behind his success.
Can you keep your aggression so controlled? And if the answer is yes then you would also be the success no doubt about it . Every one who seeks success should keep his/her aggression under control that will make him success sooner or later.
With this quality man can act cool even difficult situations. How difficult the condition might not be, with this single quality one can win the tough situations. If you want the growth in your life, learn to make a pet of this quality. It is the most basic and strong step towards the success remember it adopt it without this quality rest of the quality become wasteful, that's why learn to make it success. Some one possesses all quality, but not with self control, could be ruining his life.
This is truth of life - Self control aggression.
The mind of you which makes you to deviate from your path and responsibilities towards a goal , it put hurdles, tempts you to do mistakes. With controlled mind you can d miraculous wonderful things.
When one doesn't have a goal in his mind how can achieve success in life?
who in this world wouldn't want success? everyone wants it, everyone wants achievements in their respective areas and wishes to grow in that way. But this mind interrupts you, drags you, deceives you and creates laziness. Mind seduces you towards no performance state. A business man wants to achieve success in his life. He tries for it does it good too, but his mind deviate him , if he starts procrastinate his works.
In a short time he would develop laziness, works gets piled on and finally his mind gets deviated to something else and blames the business is not doing well.
At first keeping the mind with out distractions is the most essential ingredient for success. Without that if you attempt to do any project wouldn't get success. The mind should strive always in that direction only ,nothing else acceptable less than achieving the final goal that should be the aggression. Those who can control their emotions can only control others. Disolving the emotions would make you more powerful and successful. Those success seekers should always perceive towards their goal. Whatever the field they want it meditate on it continually, don't let your mind deviate from that focus on it completely, with all your power whatever be the conditions there would be lots of difficulties coming up in between but be still and controlled stick to your thoughts goal and achievements.
Then see yourself how could you be open the doors towards the success goal then only can become from something to SOMETHING. every successful person had possessed this quality.
This is the first step towards it. Grab it and possess it today.

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2 comments:

  1. nicely explained, so many things to learn in this article, Thank you.

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  2. Thank youuu actually...many days I have read this article whenever I have felt agitated..it has spoken to me..it has made me calmer..now I try to ignore to react..just in the process ..not yet acquired..

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