Keep your critic close to you..

 निन्दक नियरे राखिये, आंगन कुटी छवाय,
 बिन पानी-साबुन बिना, निर्मल करे सुभाय।।

 (कबीर )

Nindak niyare rakhiye, Angan kuti chawai,

Bin pani sabun bina, nirmal kare subhaiy...(kabir)

Translation

Keep your critic close to you;  shelter him in your courtyard 

As without water and soap he cleanses and purifies your character.

To My understanding

The biggest lesson learned in 2011 is from this doha of Sant kabir, which says that keep the person near to you who criticise you always, there cant be best thing than this, I was running away from my self, my faults, my despair, my weakness, and My critic was at my home, my courtyard, yet i was not able to realize, How the critic can help you in identifying ourselves.

Instead you begin to hate the person who criticised us. Result; we are unable to see us.

Seeing ourselves, Probing our mind, Introspecting us, is most difficult task, as we are surrounded by our core belief, which is our character, Any one who fit into our character is our friend, any one who doesn't suite to our core belief becomes enemy. Its like a person who is working with garbage vehicle cannot detect the foul smell on his own , or we can say he don't feel filth , because he accepted it , hence become part of his core character, or another a person who is working in a mortuary may not have definition of dead body, or foul smell he wont react to situation like any other person. Similarly ; is our mind which has accepted our core belief as me, as person and continue to believe them and we are very happy at our habits not able to detect that which habit has become addictions and become foul smell , and we are unable to define them nor detect them, hence we are non reactive to those habits , But whereas other can easily hint us, poke us, advice us , hey look this is filthy change yourself, but we cry foul that's me, if you want to accept , accept or get lost, this is me..

The Day as saint kabir said we accept the critic, who normally very close to us, around us among the family members or close friends, show us there is some trouble with our habits, What we need to do is to pay attention to those thoughts which were told about us, even they been shared in lighter manner, pay attention to them, observe the thought of them , observe what made them to say a view about you, what make them see which you cant able see yourself, there must be something in us, which has become habit( addiction) which we are continue to love become untraceable to us, they easily seeing it, probe it, most of the time you find there is some thing which was going on below this shallow nature of us.

There can be argument that if keep on listen to each and every person we can never grow, we will lose our self identity or esteem.So it should not be understood like we are listen to their thoughts, we are actually Probing our mind, what made them to think like that.

Without any effort(without soap and water or other tools) we can  get cleanse our image, our character, our core wrong beliefs which were formed due to past conscious experiences, which cannot be the reality any more, so there is no use of those beliefs to find the truth.
 BECAUSE THE TRUTH IS JUST TRUTH.

Hence Befriend with critic and accept them. It can only happen when you start LOVING THEM.
That's how my life begin to change , i accepted and started loving them, after all they are saying about me good or bad what ever, ITS ABOUT ME.