It is said that - "The leader of family should be a self contended man" for better is a little righteousness than great revenues without Right"....
By putting aside the values if a man becomes ungodly (material) or without soul and digs up EVIL and in his lips there is burning fire. i mean to say that there is integrated family could only be possible when the family members are in habit to run their family by creating a good and healthy environment there in.
TIPS to create Healthy family environment -
1) The fear of God:- LORD should be treated head of the family, every one should be submissive to lord.
2) Uninvited guest( athithi) is welcome at every dinner.
3) Due respect to all- without discrimination, on caste, sex ,creed ,nation or their positon in the society.
4) Developing Tolerance power.
5) Love and affection for each member of the family to avoid maladjustment.
6) Total absence of jealous and suspicion.
7)There must be The Purity of body, the speech and the mind.
8)To be in full co-operation for every progressive thought of the family.
9)To earn daily livelihood according to the ability.
10) Helping all who are trying to be progressive and goodness and do good..........Source Mentor's book
To have a good integrated family every one should be following the about points, and apply to make part of the one's life, and become wise son, who would be a glad father or mother.
"He that Ruleth his Spirit is Better than He that Taketh a City" (Prov. xvi. 32).
matlab -Temperance is true self-government. It involves the grace of self-denial (individual ego) and the spirit of a sound mind. It is that poise of spirit that holds us quiet, self-possessed, recollected, deliberate, and subject ever to the voice of God(heart or parm-atma) and the conviction of duty in every step we take.He that ruleth his spirit, than he that taketh a city - It is much easier to subdue an enemy without than one within. There have been many kings who had conquered nations, and yet were slaves to their own passions.
Many persons have not that poise and recollected spirit. They are drifting at the impulse of their own impressions, moods, the influence of others, or the circumstances around them.( No desire should ever control us. No purpose, however right, should have such mastery over us that we are not perfectly free. The pure affection may be an inordinate affection. Our work itself may be a selfish passion. That thing that we began to do because it was God's will, we may cling to and persist in ultimately, because it is our own will. Lord, give us the spirit ever controlled by Thy Spirit and will, and the eye that looks to Thee every moment as the eyes of a servant to the hands of her mistress. So shall Thy service be our perfect freedom, and our subjection divinest liberty.
santushta bharya bharta bharta thatiiva cha
yeshman naiv kulam nityam kalyanam tatra vaidhuvam.(manu smriti)
stri purush ek mat hoi,
jug jug rajya kare sab koi...
The wife and the husband should be of one mind and of one spirit and also of one body, they might have individual identity, they should not fraud each other, excpet it be with consent for a time that he - she may give time to fasting and prayers and come together again so that evil may not tempt them. One should not be tempted and should indulge in adulteration, in the strange woman, it is said that For the lips of strange woman drop as an honey comb and her mouth is smoother than oil, but in the end it is bitter as warm wood or sharp as two edge sword. So one should remove ones way from her and come not nigh the door of her house.
He should always drink water out of his own cistern and running water out of his own well, and always rejoice with his wife of youth. if anybody does not follow this principal, his wife would become wicked and will destroy and make unhealthy atmosphere in the family which results is Ruined family atmosphere.
Create a good atmosphere by not letting the wife departing from his union.This will make her wise and every wise woman buildeth her house, but a foolish woman plucketh it down with her own hands. This is equally true for a husband and a wife and it should be understood as the spouse.
The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride..............Ecclesiastes 7:8
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