समो भूत्वा समत्वं योग उच्यते .....

योगस्थः कुरु कर्माणि सङ्गं त्यक्त्वा धनञ्जय
सिध्यसिध्योः समो भूत्वा समत्वं  उच्यते । । ……… २:४८

हे धनञ्जय ! तू आसक्तिको  त्यागकर तथा सिद्धि और असिद्धि में समान बुध्दि वाला होकर योगमे स्तिथ हुआ कर्तव्यकर्मों को कर , समत्व ही योग कहलाता है।

Be steadfast in yoga, O Arjuna. Perform your duty and abandon all attachment to success or failure. Such evenness of mind is called yoga

Those who wanted to learn yoga should read this sloka several times and understand it better before joining any yoga classes so that one would know at least what to attain through it, most of the people think  yoga means breathing exercise which can keep their body fit. Whole gyana told by the Bhagvan krishna  to arjuna is that this body is अनित्यम , अशस्वतो , but utilize this body for doing Dharma ,To know that, higher knowledge, know that नित्यं  which is seated in this body. 

Hence Practice equanimity in both the situations whether you mastered some thing or you failed drastically(सिद्धि - असिद्धि ) be calm continue do your duties believing the fruits as milestones, instill faith in lord, until finally this individual consciousness(जीव ) meets universal consciousness(ब्रह्म ).

commentaries of various saints

Yoga is the science of the individual consciousness attaining communion with the Ultimate Consciousness. 

  Being established by this yoga perform actions relinquishing attachment, motivation for rewards and depend solely upon the mercy of the Supreme Lord in all one's activities. Totally unconcerned about success or failure, attainment or non-attainment resultant surrender in righteousness all actions as an offering unto the Supreme Lord. This is the eternal path called yoga by the wise as it consists of fixed concentration of the mind. Yoga, equanimity is the methodology encouraged. Relinquishing desire and attachment to the rewards of actions while steadfastly remaining equipoise in either success or failure. This verily is what is meant by equanimity.The meaning of the word sangam is attachment. Attachment to what? The rewards of one's fruitive actions.

Hence What should one do? Lord Krishna states here to remain balanced and equipoised. Discard the mentality of being attached. Be balanced in either victory or defeat and perform your duties.कर्माणि  refers to duties the plural usage of duties indicates various obligatory and occasional duties; Thus Yoga is explained by Lord Krishna Himself as being in the state of equanimity. 

 Actions performed with fruitive motivations (Intentions ) are far inferior to actions performed as a matter of duty.when the mind of those whose actions are performed as a matter of duty are not disturbed or unbalanced by delusions of rewards gained or lost. The activities performed in spiritual intelligence removes all suffering in the world and leads to liberation from the material existence. Contrarily activities performed for the acquisition of rewards assuredly results in suffering and affliction in the material existence.फल-हेत्वा Phala-hetavah are those who sole motivation is dictated be the prospects of reward. It should be understood that such living entities are krpanah or pitiable due to the fact but acting in this way they are imprisoned in the material existence unable to attain their spiritual nature.

Definition of EQUANIMITY

1:  Evenness of mind especially under stress (nothing could disturb his equanimity)

2:  Right disposition :  balance

Give up, give up, give up....I say to myself

IS IT REAL--- OR   JUST YOUR EGO?

Do you think I am going to help anybody? No! Oh, no, no, no, no, no! Don't expect me to be of help to anyone. Nor do I expect to damage anyone. If you are damaged, you did it; and if you are helped, you did it. You really did! You think people help you? They don't. You think people support you? They don't.

There was a woman in a therapy group I was conducting once. She was a religious sister. She said to me, "I don't feel supported by my superior." So I said, "What do you mean by that?" And she said, "Well, my superior, the provincial superior, never shows up at the novitiate where I am in charge, never. She never says a word of appreciation." I said to her, "All right let's do a little role playing. Pretend I know your provincial superior. In fact, pretend I know exactly what she thinks about you. So I say to you (acting the part of the provincial superior), 'You know, Mary, the reason I don't come to that place you're in is because it is the one place in the province that is trouble-free, no problems. I know you're in charge, so all is well.' How do you feel now?" She said, "I feel great." Then I said to her, "All right, would you mind leaving the room for a minute or two? This is part of the exercise." So she did. While she was away, I said to the others in the therapy group, "I am still the provincial superior, O.K.? Mary out there is the worst novice director I have ever had in the whole history of the province. In fact, the reason I don't go to the novitiate is because I can't bear to see what she is up to. It's simply awful. But if I tell her the truth, it's only going to make those novices suffer all the more. We are getting somebody to take her place in a year or two; we are training someone. In the meantime I thought I would say those nice things to her to keep her going. What do you think of that?" They answered, "Well, it was really the only thing you could do under the circumstances." Then I brought Mary back into the group and asked her if she still felt great. "Oh yes," she said. Poor Mary! She thought she was being supported when she wasn't. The point is that most of what we feel and think we conjure up for ourselves in our heads, including this business of being helped by people.

Do you think you help people because you are in love with them? Well, I've got news for you. You are never in love with anyone. You're only in love with your prejudiced and hopeful idea of that person. Take a minute to think about that: You are never in love with anyone, you're in love with your prejudiced idea of that person. Isn't that how you fall out of love? Your idea changes, doesn't it? "How could you let me down when I trusted you so much?" you say to someone. Did you really trust them? You never trusted anyone. Come off it! That's part of society's brainwashing. You never trust anyone. You only trust your judgment about that person. So what are you complaining about? The fact is that you don't like to say, "My judgment was lousy." That's not very flattering to you, is it? So you prefer to say, "How could you have let me down?"

So there it is: People don't really want to grow up, people don't really want to change, people don't really want to be happy. As someone so wisely said to me, "Don't try to make them happy, you'll only get in trouble. Don't try to teach a pig to sing; it wastes your time and it irritates the pig." Like the businessman who goes into a bar, sits down, and sees this fellow with a banana in his ear - a banana in his ear! And he thinks, "I wonder if I should mention that to him. No, it's none of my business." But the thought nags at him. So after having a drink or two, he says to the fellow, "Excuse me, ah, you've got a banana in your ear." The fellow says, "What?" The businessman repeats, "You've got a banana in your ear. " Again the fellow says, "What was that?" "You've got a banana in your ear!" the businessman shouts. "Talk louder," the fellow says, "I've got a banana in my ear!"

So it's useless. "Give up, give up, give up," I say to myself. Say your thing and get out of here. And if they profit, that's fine, and if they don't, too bad!

...................................................Anthony De mello